Can't We Just Be Real?

A while back I lost some weight by eating healthier and working out, which was really exciting.  But I recently fell off the wagon and gained it all back.  It was incredibly disheartening.  Here's my main problem: I LOVE food.  And unfortunately it's not usually of the healthy variety (more like pastries and pizza).  Combine that with my extreme dislike for exercise and slowly the number on the scale starts to climb.

Anyway, when I first looked at these pictures I really noticed it.  I almost didn't even want to post them.  I don't think I'm obese by any means and I'm not looking for a pity party, but it's just a fact that my clothes are fitting tighter than they used to. I've never had the best self-esteem, so I thought maybe I should try to Photoshop the muffin top and fat rolls off of my body, but then I realized two things:

1) Ain't nobody got time for that.
2) I don't want to pretend to be someone I'm not.

Editing away a few inches isn't going to make me look better in real life.  It's not going to make people like me more and it's not going to make me feel better about myself.  Of course I need to strive to live a healthier lifestyle, but I'm pretty sure it's not healthy to always be worrying about meeting society's often unrealistic beauty ideals.  I've read several articles lately explaining why women should appreciate their bodies after having children and that is definitely something I need to work on.  I've had two kids and they are worth SO much more than a sculpted physique.  It's just hard when we are constantly bombarded with images of skinny women, airbrushed to perfection.  Whether watching television, reading a magazine, scrolling through Instagram, or reading fashion blogs...I bet at some point you've found yourself thinking "wow, I sure wish I looked like that".  Why can't we just be happy with who we are?  Why do we always find it necessary to compare ourselves to others?

There have been times when I've edited pictures a little too much...and to be honest, it made me feel like a phony.  I pride myself on being a down-to-earth, authentic person.   I'm REAL and if I edit away my flaws I'm only contributing to the problem.  It's ok to have some wrinkles.  It's ok to have a little pudge.  It's ok to have a few blemishes.  What's NOT acceptable is refusing to accept and appreciate yourself.

I've decided that my new goal is self empowerment.  I want to embrace and treasure everything that makes me a unique individual, even if that means I can't look like a supermodel.  I want to live my life to the fullest, make good choices and be true to myself...and only I have the power to do so!  As part of their #PoweredByHeels campaign, Rockport shoes is hoping to fill social media with images of women sharing what empowers them each day.  Do you want to be entered into weekly drawings for free shoes and a chance to win an all-expense paid trip for a spa weekend in Miami?  Just share an image on Facebook, Instagram or Twitter, illustrating your "Powered By" statement, while showcasing your favorite pair of heels and using the hashtags #poweredbyheels and #sweeps.  I have several pairs of Rockport shoes and they are all super cute and comfy (I'm obsessed with the new tall dress boots I'm wearing), so I definitely recommend entering...the campaign ends October 31st, so make sure to share your image before then!


  1. Good for you!

    But honestly, I think you look smokin' hot in these photos so girl you ain't got nothin' to worry about

  2. Love this! I've been feeling like that lately too. I used to go and edit things a little to cover blemishes or whatever but about a year ago I just said who cares. This is me and it has been so much nicer! I appreciate the real me more. :) You look amazing! Oh and if I were a flight attendant I'm pretty sure I would gain a million pounds from having to eat out and wanting to try all the foods!

  3. This is why so many people love you!!

  4. Jenny, I think you look GORGEOUS. And as someone who struggles greatly with her weight myself, I've often felt the same way--I've hated posting outfit photos because I've hated how I look. Even just sucking my stomach in makes me feel "fake" most of the time. Thank you for posting this :)

    dance a real

  5. Aw, I think my comment went into the comment wasteland... but this is the jist of what I said:
    1) You look amazing!! Really, wonderful outfit! And rolls? "What you talkin 'bout, Willis?!" All I see is a beautifully proportioned healthy-looking, slim woman who is real. 2) Thanks for being so real. I know I am bigger than you, but I relate to people being real, no matter their size. I know the temptation to try to edit out our flaws or angle the camera to slenderize or filter, filter, filter is strong (I've been guilty of it on occasion). And 3) Supermodel...floofoomodel.... but actually, if you take the words a part - model is something that is portrayed and others see (whether good or bad), and super means awesome, which is totally you... so there you go - you are a supermodel! :)


  6. These are beautiful pictures and thanks for sharing.

  7. Nice color skirt!


  8. THIS is why we are friends!!!! I love love it!!